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| Elizabeth
How does one distinguish a genuine desire to reconcile the relationship with the overwhelming urge to stop the pain, the hurt, the loneliness and return to the good times in the marriage and try and forget the bad?
This is brought home to me in Carolyn’s opening words where she advises us to try and salvage the marriage if possible because it is so hard to go it alone.
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| Response to Elizabeth by Jan Egan ( psychologist )
I don't think we "forget the bad" in a marriage, but if there is sufficient willingness on both sides and a shared responsibility to work through the bad parts, perhaps with a counsellor, then it may be possible to learn from the bad parts and make room for new, more positive experience which in time, may outweigh the "bad".
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| Elizabeth
Thankyou Carolyn. I did find Jan's response helpful and feel the concept of shared responsibility is one I have been avoiding. However this is preventing me from being able to heal and move on so I am working with a counsellor on this now. I think your site is going to be one I will continue to refer to for a long time.
Regards,
Elizabeth
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| Carolyn
Thanks for your feedback Elizabeth. That's the whole purpose of my site ie. to help other women and offer them options.
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| Article in Royal Australian College of General Practioners Newsletter - NSW & ACT branches.
Helping your female patients cope with Separation & Divorce.
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| Sophie - Gold Coast, QLD
Why I stay in my marriage.
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| Jasmine - Parramatta, NSW
When my parents divorced!
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| Susan - Haberfield, Sydney
My story is a relationship tragedy.
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